A Word on Boobs, Sexuality and Motherhood

You know what this blog with all it’s profanity and booze references is missing? Some baby talk. And I’m happy to report I’ve got some for you. I am very excited because this is coming from my sister, and I’ve been nagging her for months to write something baby-ish related. And she came back with writing about her boobs. Bless her soul.

A Word on Boobs, Sexuality and Motherhood

by Sista

I’m the mother of the 5 month old baby. It’s hard to believe! With some of the tough times of colicks behind, in the midst of teething, and with many more challenges ahead, it seems like a good time to reflect on my life as a mom. And what a roller coaster it is! WTH?!? Why did nobody tell me that it’s going to be so different??? All those books on parenting just warn you: “Dude, make sure you get some help! Don’t do all the baby caring 24/7! If you’re at your wits end, step away from the baby!”

Then, when you feel super inadequate and confident that your must be doing everything wrong, waiting for the Child Services to show up at your door, suddenly your friends with babies reveal that they’ve been through the same problems. Their babies also screamed on top of their lungs for no apparent reason. They too had to come up with the weirdest dance moves and sounds of some cannibal tribes to calm that screaming baby. So, you actually start to think that your baby didn’t give you so much hard time as other babies. And maybe, your instincts and all those books on parenting helped you find ways to manage that bundle of screaming joy just fine. Whew!

I won’t lie. It’s super difficult at times, but when that toothless little creature smiles at you in the middle of the sleepless night, you forget all your worries. Suddenly, it feels like a million shooting stars just lit up the sky, angels came down to sing Hallelujah, and the entire world burst into colorful rainbows. Whoa!

I know, each of my paragraphs ends with an exclamation point. That’s how my life feels right now. It’s so full, it’s exploding!

The title of the post was about boobs and I’m finally getting to this topic. Recently, a guy friend (I won’t name names but they know who they are) told me that my boobs have no other meaning than a cow’s udders at this point, which means zero sexuality because I’m breastfeeding my baby. At first, I got really pissed of at him for comparing me to a cow and undermining my sexuality. After my hormones calmed down, I started analyzing.

Urban dictionary even has a number of definitions for cow’s udders, one of which is: “A slang term for a human female with enormous natural breasts, bigger than tits, boobs or melons. So named because without a bra they hang to the girl’s chest. Most common on lactating MILFs, however some younger women with macromastia/gigantomastia can also sport a pair of these.” Now, I’ll admit that my boobs are not ginormous, so the definition could apply to me as a lactating mother. Yes, my boobs could be labeled by some not-so-politically-correct individuals (read assholes) as udders. I suspect, even my husband feels somewhat intimidated or confused by this new role my boobs are playing. Nothing, however, takes away from their sexuality. To the opposite, now, more than ever, I feel sensual and sexual. It’s hard to describe that amazing feeling when I’m breastfeeding my baby. It’s like being Mother Earth that gives a new life and nurtures it. It’s like being connected to something supernatural and cosmic. After all, isn’t it from sex that a new life has to come into being? So, how can a breastfeeding woman or any mom not be sexual?

While I’m curious how many men find that a lactating mother cannot be sexually attractive, I think that those are people with a very limited view of the world. I don’t care about their opinion anymore. In fact, I don’t give a shit (usually, I don’t curse) what anyone labels me or my body parts.

I love my new role as a mom. I love this new wise, nurturing & confident woman that was born in me together with my baby. I love that this woman can combine so many different aspects and I’m looking forward to discovering myself even more! Hold on tight!

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2 thoughts on “A Word on Boobs, Sexuality and Motherhood

  1. For the love of God, keep writing these arlectis.

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